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Motherhood is one of the most wonderful joys in life. It is a job that receives many rewards, but they don’t come easy. I am a mom to two wonderful boys. Beautiful, smart, funny, wild and crazy boys! I love them! Our family is full of hugs, fun, and excitement, but life isn’t always easy for them or me. We have had our share of tears, arguments, tantrums, and fights. And after one of those long, hard mom days, I often find myself thinking “When will it get easier?” No matter how old my boys get, I still ask myself that same question.
As our children get older, our job as a mom changes. Life may become easier, but then we are faced with new difficulties. So, does motherhood ever really get easier or does it just change?
Some Things Get Easier
Obviously some things in motherhood will get easier. My difficulties as a mom now are not the same as they were 8 years ago, 5 years ago, or even last year!
When I became a first time mom 9 years ago, sleep was a major challenge.
I never slept for more than three hours at a time. And even once my son started to sleep 8 hours at night, I still didn’t sleep much. I was constantly waking up worrying if he was still alive in his crib! Oh the joys and paranoias of a first time mom.
Once, I came to grips with the fact that my son was sleeping 12 hours at night, and was indeed going to be ok without me until morning, I began to start sleeping again. It was wonderful!
But the sleeping didn’t last long…soon I was faced with new challenges including night waking, bad dreams, and early morning wakeup times. Tell me these stories sound familiar!
When one problem got easier…boom I was faced with a new challenge.
Motherhood is about working through our current difficulties and trying to make them easier.
Some Things Change
Now, my boys aren’t really old enough for me to say that motherhood never gets easier, because maybe it does when your kids are in college, or when they become adults. But then again maybe not? I know plenty of adults who still live at home with their parents!
While I’m not a veteran mom, I do have a few years under my belt. My sister will often ask me for advice since, my boys are older than her daughter.
After listening to stories about my 2 year old niece having a public tantrum or hating her car seat, I will often hear the questions “When will it end?” and “When will it get easier?”
My advice for younger moms is “I’ll let you know!”
I haven’t got there yet.
I still have long days with my boys. Weirdly, they will still have an occasional tantrum. And my youngest son still can’t sit right in the car!
It seems like the challenges we face as moms, feel so difficult at the time, that we look for a window of hope as to when motherhood will become easier.
In hindsight, I think the problems I faced when my children were babies seem so easy now! I’ll take potty training a 2 year old over teaching manners to an opinionated 7 year old any day! But that’s just me!
I’m just a mom, who loves her kids, no matter how easy it gets.