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As life changes so do our friends. Moms in general have many different types of friends. We have old friends and new friends, and some “friends” that we wish weren’t really our friends at all. (Don’t pretend that you don’t know exactly what I mean.) Personally, I have a bunch of acquaintances , but not so many friends. To me a friend is some who is there for you in good times and bad. A friend is there to listen and to also be heard. A friend is someone you have an emotional bond with. All those other people in your life, well they are fun to hang out with, but they may not be a true friend. I think every mom needs at least three friends in her life.
In my life, my best friend is my sister. We actually talk (not text) almost everyday on the phone. We share stories about important stuff and stupid stuff. Somedays I talk more and she listens, and then on other days she talks more and I listen. We have been through a lot together and have lots of memories. A best friend will always be there for you, even if you don’t see her everyday. Sure there will be fights, or arguments that is just part of life, but in the end all will be forgiven. Some moms aren’t lucky enough to have a real sister, but they need a best friend who they can rely on like a sister. Your best friend is not necessarily a mom like you. She may have a totally different life course, but she will always be there when you need a shoulder to lean on. Maybe you have known her since high school or maybe you just met last year, but that best friend is the one person you can always count on!
Before your kids start school, it can be hard to find a mom friend. But a mom friend is a very important relationship to establish. She is someone who can relate to your daily life, because she is right there in the trenches of motherhood with you. She too has 3 am walkup calls, toys all over the living room floor, and piles of laundry to fold. A mom friend can sit with you for hours in a local coffee shop exchanging stories. She will pick the kids up from school when you are ill, remind you when your son’s school project is due, and schedules a regular mom’s night out to help keep the sanity! You need a mom friend, someone who is just like you!
Every mom needs a neighbor friend they can call. Someone who will water your plants, grab your mail, or feed the dog when you are away. She is a friend you can chat with while the kids run around in the front yard, or a friend to exercise with as you walk around the block. She is a friend to enjoy a glass of wine with after dinner. A neighbor friend will be there for you in the middle of the night when you need to go to the emergency room, or when you need a quick babysitter to run to the store. She will keep an eye on the house and the kids, knowing that you will be there for her in return.
Moms, I hope each and everyone of you has one of these three types of friends. Hey I hope you have more than one in each category. The more the merrier! But what, you don’t need is a jealous friend.
Oh, the jealous mom friend. You know who she is! That “friend” who pretends to like you when she needs something for herself, but secretly is jealous of your life. That friend who only talks and never listens. That friend who loves to ask you for favors but is always to busy to return them. That mom who loves your outfit when she sees you, but talks about you behind your back. Don’t get stuck with a jealous friend. Moms, a true friend will always want to see you succeed no matter what the cause. She will ask you about your day without having an ulterior motive. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so make sure you choose your friends wisely.
People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
Every mom needs a best friend for life, a mom friend for when her kids are young, and a good neighbor she can rely on.
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